The 'Man Bag'

Twenty-something dating is a minefield! This is not a new statement, if you are dating; looking to date or even if you’re way passed the dating phase you will know the horrors in particular, of the first date. There are hidden mines just waiting to explode in your face, the potentially awkward first date, the ‘ex-files’, the future of your relationship or not in some cases and the break-up.

So, I often wonder why we all set ourselves up for a fall.

I recently chatted this through with a great friend of mine and our conclusion is that we are all hopeful romantics underneath our hardened exterior. We have all heard the urban legend of the ‘ultimate happy ever after’ and so we battle on.

It is my belief that the men we date fall into very distinct categories. The best way I can describe these types of men is to relate them to my favorite accessory, the handbag, because after all no outfit is quiet complete without one and you feel naked if you leave home without one.

My first example of this would be; ‘The small beautiful Jimmy Choo satin evening bag with a swaroski clasp’ also known as the beautiful man, with the amazing body, that you know is not quiet right for you but the sex is great, so why not! Just like an evening bag, he only comes out on special occasions; he’s unbelievably pretty but surprisingly useless and is only good for one thing!
After all ‘an evening bag’ will only hold the smallest mobile known to man and one credit card, what real use is that?

The next category would be the ‘everyday tan bag’. The tan day bag, is a staple for any woman’s wardrobe constantly in use, it works with every outfit, looks great on holidays, at the office and with you best skinny jeans. You start to take it completely for granted, and abuse it a bit by over filling it and by slinging it onto the backseat of your car, it has also somehow becomes full of random stuff you lug around that you just don’t need.

This would be the dependable man, the man that is always around for you, worships the ground you walk on, and offers you advice when you need it with a shoulder to cry on when you didn’t take it. You find yourself not really seeing him for what he is and you start to take him for granted. Inevitably the ‘everyday bag’ comes to the end of its days. It gets used so much the strap breaks and because you’ve had it forever the parts to fix it can never be located and you find yourself, trading it in for a newer model. True of bags and I’m afraid true of some men!

Then you have the season’s ‘It’ bag. Everyone you know coverts it, it’s the most beautiful and functional thing you’ve ever seen and after much scrimping and saving and starving yourself, you manage to get enough money together and you finally purchase it.

It’s yours; thank god you managed to snatch it from another fashionista’s hand first day of the spring deliveries!

Unfortunately there is something not quite right, it’s not quite as amazing as you thought it would be, it is not rocking your world in the way it should. The lining seems to be ripping already, the clasp is loose and the strap cuts into your should bone. Then one fateful lunch date with the girls you find out that your coveted bag is actually a big fat fake! Can you believe it, well yes you can actually it’s a case of sods law.

This is the ‘too good to be true’ guy. The gorgeous guy with a great job, a fantastic city centre apartment and who seems to be really into you when you first meet, and then things change! Remember ladies if something seems too good to be true, it probably is.

It may be the right time to ask yourself…Which bag do you have and which one would you prefer?


Written by- Loulebelle